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Kathleen's avatar

This is an amazing piece, amazing amazing amazing. Are you in my head? How do you know the inner parts of me already?

'You want your mother to try to understand you, to try to put herself in your shoes, and every time you sit with your best friend’s family and feel the love in the room, suddenly you are four years old again, begging to be loved, begging to be seen.'

Thank you for writing this, thank you for sharing this. As someone who is in my head most of the time and currently in a season of life that requires me to sort of..buckle down..and do what needs to be done for the sake of survival and a level of comfort, I think about this, the idea of 'going after it' quite often. Becoming a mother has changed the game plan a bit, and I feel torn in so many ways. The part of me not yet bloomed, the one I aspired to be as a young girl, has blossomed in a way she could have never seen coming, a mom to two amazing kids who are teaching me who they are and therefore who I want to be. The disconnect between the two thought out lives is painful to think about but also so wonderful at the same time, how? I don't know... I'm still taking risks though and betting on myself and I plan to show my kids to do the same.

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Kehinde's avatar

Kathleen this is such a beautiful comment!!

I’m so glad that you felt seen by this post and I am so grateful for all of the compliments!! Sometimes I feel as though our brains have soulmates too, people out there who feel the same emotions that we can only express through tears or putting pen to paper.

I spend a lot of my time in my head to, trying to make sense of all the noise that goes on in my brain. I hope you take care of yourself and live a riskier, fulfilling life ♥️

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aditi ◡̈'s avatar

i LOOOOOOVED this!! amazing piece this quote is going to play in my head for the rest of my life

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Kehinde's avatar

Thank you, I’m so happy that you enjoyed it! It’s a quote that I live by ♥️

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Yogeswari Sridhar's avatar

Love this piece!!!

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Jasmin Santos's avatar

That Kierkegaard quote—“Do it or do not; you will regret both”—hit like a quiet storm. No matter what you choose, the ache of wondering what could’ve been will follow. But it’s not hopeless—it’s freeing. You won’t get it all right, so you might as well choose the thing that makes you feel most alive while you’re here.

My favorite line was: “I want to do everything; I want to be everything. But deep down, I know that I will have to pick, that I will have to sacrifice potential parts of myself, potential future mes.”

It’s black or white to me—it’s either this or that. You can’t choose both without repercussions. That’s just how it is. And the point is to choose bravely, with fear, and commit to it. Because you owe that choice to yourself.

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Kehinde's avatar

Exactly Jasmin! Thank you so much for reading ♥️

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natalieee's avatar

I’ve started doing this lately. The kinda “oh well” mindset. Because for all my life, i’ve missed out on SOOO many things because i was afraid. Scared. Doubtful. Now, i’ve done things i’ve would’ve never imagined myself ACTUALLY doing.

So thank you for this! Puts it in an even better perspective.

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Kehinde's avatar

♥️♥️

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Rebecca V's avatar

You're only in your first year of university but already so wise! I really enjoyed reading this. Where did you first learn about Søren Kierkegaard?

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Kehinde's avatar

Thank you so much Rebecca, I’m so glad that you enjoyed!! I discovered Kierkegaard last year summer when I got into an existential crisis.

I wanted answers to my questions about the meaning of life, and so I discovered existentialism. When learning the basics of the existentialism, Søren Kierkeggard’s name came up!

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Riya's avatar

amazing beautiful literally rewoke me from the dread of always being scared to just take the risk

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Kehinde's avatar

thank you so much love!! I’m so glad that you enjoyed. Take control of your life, and live everyday to the fullest:)

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Priye Innocent's avatar

This piece reminds me of the quote i tell myself each time i feel lazy, the pain of regret is worse than the pain of failure.

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Kehinde's avatar

❤️❤️

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Cheri's avatar

I felt like you were literally inside my head. Thank you for this 🫶🏻

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Kehinde's avatar

Thank you for reading ❤️

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Lokii's avatar

I feel really lucky that I am here on substack and was able to read this writing of yours is all I can say!

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Kehinde's avatar

That means so much to me, thank you so much for reading ❤️❤️

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غَيْمَة's avatar

This is amazing! I mean it’s a MASTERPIECE!!!

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Kehinde's avatar

thank you lovely!!! ❤️❤️

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kats's avatar

just want to say something , love you omg it felt like wow my big sis is telling me dont stop just go for it , have a great day !!!!

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Kehinde's avatar

Love you more darling thank you for reading ♥️♥️

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sgcjm's avatar

you made me got my final decision after me holding for like months for booking my autumn trip to japan. yey. thank you for this letter dear🤍. live your life the fullest.

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Kehinde's avatar

♥️♥️

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alliewants's avatar

This was such an amazing read. I divulged in every single word you wrote with a candid heart. I'll begin living my life by just doing what I want to do or not cause hey I might regret either choice later on anyway.

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Kehinde's avatar

thank you so much for reading my love, I’m glad it had an impact on you ♥️♥️

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Twentysomethingyearold's avatar

Thank you for this masterpiece 🫶

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Kehinde's avatar

Thank you for reading love ♥️

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Aaqilah Imthiaz's avatar

This is brilliant, I love it! I am everything I want to be right now but regret does creep up. While I don’t want to think of the what ifs cause there is absolutely no point except waste my time, it does come in even for a second, not in the form of regret, more like how can I fix it now, it’s not necessary but it feels like?

I mean, I wouldn’t be the person I am now or living this life of mine if it weren’t for the sacrifices and missed connections of the past, but you are right, there are moments where i think omg is it too late, even though I AM content? It’s a weird feeling

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Kehinde's avatar

Yes haha I know exactly how you feel! I love the phrase “do it or not: you will regret both” because it pushes me to take more risks in my life!

There are so many times when I didn’t go through with something I was passionate about, and I always regret it because I keep on thinking ‘what if’.

Now I try my best to put myself out there, and to work hard in everything that I want to do:)

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Näñçïëë✨🍃🍁's avatar

Been pondering on this same thought the past weeks and now someone penned it . Beautiful piece of writing ☀️

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Kehinde's avatar

Thank you darling!!

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