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Kathleen's avatar

This is an amazing piece, amazing amazing amazing. Are you in my head? How do you know the inner parts of me already?

'You want your mother to try to understand you, to try to put herself in your shoes, and every time you sit with your best friend’s family and feel the love in the room, suddenly you are four years old again, begging to be loved, begging to be seen.'

Thank you for writing this, thank you for sharing this. As someone who is in my head most of the time and currently in a season of life that requires me to sort of..buckle down..and do what needs to be done for the sake of survival and a level of comfort, I think about this, the idea of 'going after it' quite often. Becoming a mother has changed the game plan a bit, and I feel torn in so many ways. The part of me not yet bloomed, the one I aspired to be as a young girl, has blossomed in a way she could have never seen coming, a mom to two amazing kids who are teaching me who they are and therefore who I want to be. The disconnect between the two thought out lives is painful to think about but also so wonderful at the same time, how? I don't know... I'm still taking risks though and betting on myself and I plan to show my kids to do the same.

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Kehinde's avatar

Kathleen this is such a beautiful comment!!

I’m so glad that you felt seen by this post and I am so grateful for all of the compliments!! Sometimes I feel as though our brains have soulmates too, people out there who feel the same emotions that we can only express through tears or putting pen to paper.

I spend a lot of my time in my head to, trying to make sense of all the noise that goes on in my brain. I hope you take care of yourself and live a riskier, fulfilling life ♥️

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aditi ◡̈'s avatar

i LOOOOOOVED this!! amazing piece this quote is going to play in my head for the rest of my life

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Kehinde's avatar

Thank you, I’m so happy that you enjoyed it! It’s a quote that I live by ♥️

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Jasmin Santos's avatar

That Kierkegaard quote—“Do it or do not; you will regret both”—hit like a quiet storm. No matter what you choose, the ache of wondering what could’ve been will follow. But it’s not hopeless—it’s freeing. You won’t get it all right, so you might as well choose the thing that makes you feel most alive while you’re here.

My favorite line was: “I want to do everything; I want to be everything. But deep down, I know that I will have to pick, that I will have to sacrifice potential parts of myself, potential future mes.”

It’s black or white to me—it’s either this or that. You can’t choose both without repercussions. That’s just how it is. And the point is to choose bravely, with fear, and commit to it. Because you owe that choice to yourself.

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Kehinde's avatar

Exactly Jasmin! Thank you so much for reading ♥️

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natalieee's avatar

I’ve started doing this lately. The kinda “oh well” mindset. Because for all my life, i’ve missed out on SOOO many things because i was afraid. Scared. Doubtful. Now, i’ve done things i’ve would’ve never imagined myself ACTUALLY doing.

So thank you for this! Puts it in an even better perspective.

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Kehinde's avatar

♥️♥️

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Riya's avatar

amazing beautiful literally rewoke me from the dread of always being scared to just take the risk

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Kehinde's avatar

thank you so much love!! I’m so glad that you enjoyed. Take control of your life, and live everyday to the fullest:)

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Rebecca V's avatar

You're only in your first year of university but already so wise! I really enjoyed reading this. Where did you first learn about Søren Kierkegaard?

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Kehinde's avatar

Thank you so much Rebecca, I’m so glad that you enjoyed!! I discovered Kierkegaard last year summer when I got into an existential crisis.

I wanted answers to my questions about the meaning of life, and so I discovered existentialism. When learning the basics of the existentialism, Søren Kierkeggard’s name came up!

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caitlin.'s avatar

this piece is wonderful. a good insight to how i feel about my life. i need change i need to do more… do more living. enough life freely.

i want to “do it or do not” tattooed on my forehead for a reminder that i’ll regret everything i do and i regret not doing so much now that i’m turning 30 so i might as well just do it anyways.

thank you for sharing this. i really enjoyed reading it and it sparked something wonderful in me.

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Kehinde's avatar

Thank you so my love, I’m glad that you enjoyed it!!

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thenever(ending)list's avatar

So relatable. My friends and I always get together and eventually discuss what we could've been, it is always such a bittersweet feeling to reimagine our lives :)

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Kehinde's avatar

♥️♥️

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The Positivity Days's avatar

Loved this! Mindset is everything, tell your beautiful mind that you can do anything in your life, keep working on yourself, trust, believe in yourself and God's plan everything gonna be alright. Don't overthink, if you think about problems more problems you will attract, if you think about opportunities and blessings, you will attracts them. It's all about the mentality of your mind, what you tell your mind to, it will come to you.

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Maddie 🩵's avatar

My god, this was truly breathtakingly beautiful. So much of this resonated so much with me and my current state of life. You have captured a lot of the words I’ve been trying to tell myself. So thank you. I restacked what felt like the whole piece. 100/10 read right here.

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Kehinde's avatar

Thank you so much Maddie this is so sweet 😭♥️

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matt hatter's avatar

Substack is killing me tonight and this piece is fatal

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Kehinde's avatar

😭♥️♥️♥️♥️

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Kadi's avatar

I just want to stay you’re amazing never stop writing💕

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Kehinde's avatar

Thank you honey!! ♥️

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DLolaxox's avatar

This is absolutely amazing 💕

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Kehinde's avatar

Thank you love ♥️

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The Wallachian Girl 🖤❤️'s avatar

This is exactly the kind of content Substack wants and needs, and excellent work putting it so effectively into perspective! 🖤❤️

Likewise, great to meet you, and I’m glad that you’re finding Substack to be so rewarding! 😊🧡📄

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Purpledot's avatar

Bbbeeeeeaaatiiifffffffuuulll😍😍😍💜

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Kehinde's avatar

Thank you!!

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Pinky's avatar

Giving me the strength I need! Thank you!

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Kehinde's avatar

Thank you for reading!!!

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